Tomorrow is Father’s Day in Australia. Time to get up early and cook some pancakes for the old man!
Dads have a unique power to shape our view of the world and influence our expectations and interactions with others for the rest of our lives – for good or for bad.
Most of us can remember a ‘life instruction’ our fathers passed on to us.
My dad secretly bought a Hall & Oates ‘best of’ CD and slid it into my Xmas stocking when I was 10. Contained on that legendary disc was the most important lesson of all:
‘Do what you want, be who you are,
There ain’t no right or wrong way, just plain from the heart.’
I remember wearing electric blue velvet pants to casual clothes day at my new high school. Even if I did look totally ridiculous, and certainly very different from all the other schoolgirls, Dad applauded as I left the house and reassured me how cool I looked. He did the same when I decided to wear a sari to my Year 12 formal. I always feel like a million bucks around him.
For daughters, the “first man” in our lives frames the rest of the male-female relationships we have throughout life. Helping a girl feel beautiful and develop a sense of self should be core Dad duties.
I know from close girlfriends that a father-daughter relationship is not always as sweet a tale, and many young kids are not afforded the opportunity to have a dad around.
So thanks to my Dad, for being there and always encouraging me to express myself. X
And in the spirit of celebrating Dads and manhood, here are some really good reads from sons out there…
Julian Cole’s ‘Becoming a man: dealing with personal problems‘
Mark Pollard’s ‘Why some men are so lost‘
Ehon Chan’s ‘Softenthefckup‘ get men talking campaign
I’d love to hear a lesson your dad taught you…